If it was possible to be presented with a comprehensive list of everyone who has thought about you while having sex, would you want to see it?; his guess is that the list would destroy us all

The Masturbation List - A thought experiment. Jack Pemment. Psychology Today, Oct 31, 2020. https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/blame-the-amygdala/202010/the-masturbation-list

Here’s a thought experiment for you.

It’s both at once amusing and terrifying, but as it’s Halloween, it’s the perfect time to share it with you.

If it was possible to be presented with a comprehensive list of everyone who has thought about you, either while masturbating or having sex, would you want to see it?

There is no way to feel neutral about this list.

Just pausing to imagine what names you might see on the list could at once be validating, but at the same time, horrifying. What if someone you once had a crush on is on the list, but then also someone you really don’t or didn’t like all that much?

This list would change your life. You might not be able to look at many of your colleagues the same way again. Do you have the kind of personality where this knowledge wouldn’t get to you? If somebody has had a sexual fantasy about you, without you, is that their privilege? Is it okay, but just as long as you don’t know about it? But now you do.

Would you be okay looking at the list, but with the caveat of being protected by it only covering up to five years previous? Looking back might be amusing, but seeing anyone on the list you still interact with in the present might be awkward and borderline traumatic.

But looking back, would you want to know who thought about you in a sexual fantasy when you had not yet come of age? If someone had been the same age as you, maybe you’d be comfortable with that, but what if they’d been quite a lot older than you?

What about how many people were on the list? If it was minimal, would you feel [...]

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