Rescued and deradicalised women are returning to Boko Haram. Why? By Hilary Matfess
http://africanarguments.org/2017/11/01/rescued-and-deradicalised-women-are-returning-to-boko-haram-why/
Girls and women who join Boko Haram simply tend to see it as the best option available to them.
African Arguments, November 1, 2017
[Photo: It is not uncommon to hear of girls and women escaping IDP camps to return to their Boko Haram husbands. Credit: UD.]
This June, reports emerged that Aisha, the wife of Boko Haram commander, had fled her home in Maiduguri. The 25-year-old reportedly escaped the city to rejoin her husband Mamman Nur and other insurgents in the Sambisa Forest.
Stories of girls and young women leaving camps for internally-displaced persons to return to the notoriously brutal Boko Haram are not uncommon in north-eastern Nigeria. But Aisha’s story is particularly troubling. She had only recently completed a targeted, nine-month long deradicalisation programme.
If Aisha returned to Boko Haram despite all the resources dedicated to her deradicalisation and rehabilitation, what does the future hold for the scores of other women who receive significantly less support?
Why women join Boko Haram
The roughly 70-person deradicalisation programme in which Aisha participated was a mixture of psychosocial support and religious education. The provision of care to women who have been traumatised is certainly valuable, but the framing of this support as a deradicalisation programme mischaracterises the motivations of women who join Boko Haram.
In my conversations with women who joined the Islamist militant group of their own volition, many cite the opportunities that being a member of the insurgency provides. Aisha, who benefitted particularly thanks to her husband’s senior role as a commander, told Reuters in February that she was given slaves who “washed, cooked, and babysat for her”. “Even the men respected me because I was Mamman Nur’s wife,” she boasted.
However, even women who were not wives of elite fighters reported that joining the group conveyed tangible benefits. One woman I spoke to said: “There was 100% better treatment as a wife under Boko Haram. There was more gifts, better food, and a lot of sex that I always enjoyed.”
Another girl who married into the insurgency told me she particularly enjoyed the sect’s mandatory, near-daily Quranic education. “I was happy because I was meeting with my friends and getting learning,” she said, contrasting this with her much more intermittent access to schooling outside the group.
As detailed in my new book Women and the War on Boko Haram, women also often joined the insurgency because of the material improvement it can bring. Many women said they were drawn to Boko Haram because brideprices are paid directly to women rather than their family and because purdah – the practice of wife seclusion that’s associated with the socio-economic elite in northern Nigeria – is practiced widely.
These benefits contrast with typical experiences outside the insurgency. Only 4% of girls in northern Nigeria complete secondary school, while a UK government report estimates that 80% of women in eight northern states are unable to read. Early marriage is prevalent, access to health care is meagre, and the maternal mortality rate in the region is five times the global average.
Coming home
Women who are rescued or removed from Boko Haram return to the material deprivation and socio-political marginalisation that drove them to the group in the first place. But in addition, they may also come to face new forms of discrimination.
According to Dr Fatima Akilu, founder of the Neem Foundation, which provides psychosocial support, women who return home face the “possibility of violence”. Women may successfully go through the deradicalisation programme, she says, but then struggle in the community because of intense stigmatisation.
This accounts for both women who joined Boko Haram voluntarily and those abducted against their will. A UNICEF and International Alert report found that some community leaders are reticent to accept abducted women back into the community as “their ideas and ways of life may now be different and may not be good for the community”.
Despite widespread recognition of the problems of reintegration, there has yet to be a broad, community-oriented sensitisation programme to help girls return home. Furthermore, deradicalisation programmes generally do not focus on the sorts of livelihood development or skills acquisition that could help these single women support themselves and their children.
This mistrust and economic insecurity puts women who return at high risk of exploitation and gender-based violence.
[Full text and reference information in the link above]
Hilary Matfess’ book Women and the War on Boko Haram Wives, Weapons, Witnesses is out on 3 November 2017.
34 Inspiring Quotes on Criticism (and How to Handle It) -- EXTRACT
- – Dale Carnegie
- “The pleasure of criticizing takes away from us the pleasure of being moved by some very fine things.”
– Jean de La Bruyère - – Aristotle
- – John Wooden
- “Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting.”
– Emmet Fox - “When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable.”
– Judith Martin - – Neil Gaiman
- – Norman Vincent Peale
- “When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about
that person; it merely says something about our own need to be
critical.”
– Unknown - “It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
– Daisaku Ikeda - “The artist doesn’t have time to listen to the critics. The ones who
want to be writers read the reviews, the ones who want to write don’t
have the time to read reviews.”
– William Faulkner - “If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else
only their conduct we shall soon reach a very false conclusion.”
– Calvin Coolidge - “I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did
not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of
approval than under a spirit of criticism.”
– Charles Schwab - “I criticize by creation, not by finding fault.”
– Marcus Tullius Cicero - “Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson - “Don’t criticize what you don’t understand, son. You never walked in that man’s shoes.”
– Elvis Presley - – Frank A. Clark
- “People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.”
– Gary Chapman - “Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.”
– Unknown - “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the
strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them
better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.
So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
– Theodore Roosevelt - “Before you go and criticize the younger generation, just remember who raised them.”
– Unknown - “Who do you spend time with? Criticizers or encouragers? Surround
yourself with those who believe in you. Your life is too important for
anything less.”
– Steve Goodier - “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills
the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an
unhealthy state of things.”
– Winston Churchill - “He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.”
– Abraham Lincoln - – Antoine de Saint-Exupery
- – Eleanor Roosevelt
- “One mustn’t criticize other people on grounds where he can’t stand perpendicular himself”
– Mark Twain - “That was excellently observed’, say I, when I read a passage in an
author, where his opinion agrees with mine. When we differ, there I
pronounce him to be mistaken.”
– Jonathan Swift - “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”
– Benjamin Franklin - “Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not
like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will
not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
– William Arthur Ward - “A man interrupted one of the Buddha’s lectures with a flood of abuse.
Buddha waited until he had finished and then asked him:
If a man offered a gift to another but the gift was declined, to whom would the gift belong?
To the one who offered it, said the man.
Then, said the Buddha, I decline to accept your abuse and request you to keep it for yourself.” - – Joseph Joubert
- – Abraham Lincoln
- – Michel de Montaigne